I was all ready to post about this little fitness segment that I had ready but something happened this weekend that has had me thinking a lot and feeling kind of bad.
S and I went to a movie. I know..that’s not ground-breaking or earth shattering but it kind of was. Call it a date night or a parental break but whatever it was it was great.
The night started with us dropping the kids off and as we drove away, I took a deep breath and tried to switch gears from parent to spouse. I tried to ignore the questions…”did I pack their pajamas?” “Did I pack enough food?”
We drove silently for a little while and then the conversation started slowly. We talked about where we were going to park, if we had time to get some food, was the movie going to be sold out..small talk.
We got to the theater early enough to sit and have a glass of wine and people watch, one of our favorite things to do together. If you know S, he’s a quiet type. We are so opposite in a lot of ways but when it comes down to it, we can sit together not saying a word and be just as happy as can be.
As the time went on, I started remembering what life was like before the kids. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my children but for a brief moment in time, I remembered what it was like to just be a wife. To be S’s +1.
Then it hit me...the hardest part about being a parent, is remembering to be a wife.
Before we got married, we had to to got marriage classes at church and the priest said something…
“Above all else, you are a wife and above all else, you are a husband.”
At the time, I rolled my eyes, and thought quietly to myself “well, duh”, not really taking in the meaning.
When E came along, I quickly immersed myself in the role of mom and MiniE’s arrival really solidified that role. That isn’t bad but what is bad is forgetting that my kids aren’t the only ones that need a little nurturing.
S and I connected as husband and wife again, in that short three hours we had together and it was wonderful.
Looking back at what the priest said, now I get it and I’m not exactly thrilled with that sinking feeling I have in stomach but that’s about to change. We went to see American Hustle and Jennifer Lawrence’s character talked about the “Power of Intention” and while she was kind of flighty and crazy, it did stick I guess because I intend to be a better wife. S deserves nothing less.