Parenting is tough. We all know that but sometimes it’s tougher than others. Take, for example, this situation I’m dealing with.
E, my four-year old, goes to a great school. I love everything about it, his teacher, the fundamentals they teach, etc. What I don’t love is that there is one little boy in his class that is overly aggressive. I’ve communicated the stories E tells me to the administration and they moved the boy to another classroom most days. I accepted it as a reasonable solution. I looked at this as a learning opportunity to explain to E how NOT to behave and that there are better ways of expressing emotions. E took it all in and continues to be a very good-natured little boy.
Then one morning I dropped E off only to see that same little boy essentially punching a different boy repeatedly. In my mind, this went WAY beyond the typical rough housing that little boys can be known for. The teach saw it about the same time I did but I was furious. Furious with the child, the teacher and the school that this behavior continues to go on. I pulled E right back out and took him home.
I called the school and explained that I wanted E permanently moved so that he didn’t have to interact with that boy but I’m riddled with guilt. Is that the right move? It might correct the problem, it might not. And even if it did correct the problem for E, there is still a classroom full of children (someone else’s son or daughter) that have to deal with this child. The word “bully” runs in and out of my head.
My initial gut reaction is that this child needs to leave the school. At 4 years old, I’m sorry but kids don’t need to have to worry about or deal with this. I’m trying to balance that gut with the idea that this little boy probably has some home issues that need to be addressed not allowing him to come to school would be a big disservice. I honestly don’t know.
Now, Monday morning, E has to experience more change. A new room, a new teacher, new students…all of it and I hate that for him but I know he’ll pull through.