When you become a mom you get a lot of advice, some solicited and some unsolicited. You try to be a sponge and polite and take it all in after all, maybe they know.
Then you spend the rest of your life trying to decide if you’re doing the right thing. Did you follow their advice? Did you go with your gut? There is a constant worry…motherhood is FULL of worry.
Now that I’ve been a mom for almost six years SOME things have become a little clearer at least about the early years.
I look back now and I am feeling good about some of the advice I chose to follow and some of the advice I chose NOT to follow.
One of the things that I was told more than once is basically the lesson of tough love early on.
Let them cry it out
Don’t hold them to long, you’ll spoil them
Stepping waaayy back, this blog has been around since before the kids and I was very open about becoming an mom and life as a new mom. I went through some pretty heavy anxiety before E was born. I just didn’t know how it was all going to go. So I listened to everything everyone told me and once E was born I realized real quick that you can take this all in as “ideas” but when it comes to “execution” you have to do what’s right for you and your family.
E was colicy, wanted to be close to me 24/7. Cried A LOT. It was overwhelming and then when you hear all this “advice” it stressed me out. Then one night at 4 AM, as I was there rocking him wondering if I should be or shouldn’t be doing that it just hit me…I was comforted by him as much as he was comforted by me.
Holding him made me feel good, it made me feel like it was the right thing to do. I also realized that life wasn’t always going to be like this. One day he would grow up. One day he would be too big to hold like this. After that moment, it all changed for me. Yes, I was sleep deprived and yes it wasn’t all happy times but what it was is my time.
E didn’t sleep through the night till 2 and a half. We found a solution and it worked for us. MiniE came around and wanted no part of rocking and cuddling before bed. She would point to the crib as if to say “Mom, lay me down and walk away”. At that point I was even MORE grateful to have given in to my desire to cuddle E. I didn’t get it as much with number two.
How do all those decision play out in the little people they are today? Tough to say but what I will say is that they are loving little ones (that both sleep REALLY well) that appreciate and love to cuddle their mama. Even at almost 6, E demands that I cuddle him every night and I NEVER say no. It’s quite possible the best part of my day.
Why am I telling you all this? Because this blog has never just been about running. I want to share all aspects of my life with you. AND because I have a lot of friends that are about to become new moms and if I can tell you ANYTHING and have you hear it, hear this.
TAKE IT ALL IN…Life goes to fast. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Keep it all in perspective.
Ok, on that note, I’m out…